Left-Brain Extroverts & What They Need

by Linda Parelli on June 13, 2012

I don’t know what it is, but for some reason there are a lot of Left-Brain Extroverts in my life at the moment. Must be something I really have to study! The good news is that as I get better at explaining what it is they need, I’m a better teacher.

Recently, at the Horse and Soul tour stop in City of Industry, I was teaching the session on Horsenality™, and there were four horses that depict each of the quadrants. Susan Nelson‘s warmblood mare, Ellie, had been quite a challenge. They’ve made super progress over the past 18 months – good enough to be in the show, which is saying a lot actually. Susan sent me this update and I thought I would share it with you. At the tour stop, I was saying how you need to “rush” the Left-Brain Extrovert, give them lots to do, and then you’ll get their attention and they’ll want to do what you want. This is a beautiful demonstration of just that. Take it away, Susan: [click to continue…]

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Horsenality™ Is Not An Excuse!

by Linda Parelli on May 9, 2012

The reason for this blog is that I keep hearing this comment: “People are using Horsenality™ as an excuse!” We’ve all heard people say “I can’t ask my horse to do this; he’s an introvert” or “She’ll always be crabby and bitchy because she’s a Left-Brain Extrovert!’”

Let’s be clear – knowing your horse’s Horsenality is not about being able to make excuses. It’s about bringing your full attention to this question: are you bringing out the worst or the best in your horse? Knowing about Horsenality means you have the inside scoop as to what it is your horse trusts and respects in a leadership style that would bring out the most positive behaviors. And when you know just how to approach your horse, it will help you make faster progress and get better results.

Let’s talk about introverts:

Introverts take time to process your request, either because they can’t do it or they don’t want to do it right away. Guess which is which!

Right-Brain Introvert – can’t do it. That’s because their emotions get in the way so their first reaction is stress, and stress makes them clam up and shut down until they trust you and can feel completely confident around you. Putting it in human terms, this is the Right-Brain Introvert mother who is both caring and effective with her children. She can think on her feet and do the right thing in the moment. But in another setting, she is tentative and easily intimidated. The more extroverted the situation, the more introverted the Right-Brain Introvert becomes. These horses are often called unpredictable, aloof, tense, and oversensitive.

Left-Brain Introvert – won’t do it. That’s because their opinion of you gets in the way – they think you are lower than them in the pecking order! These horses are often called stubborn, lazy, and arrogant.

When a horse is acting tense, over-reactive, stubborn, lazy, etc., that’s because the rider is bringing out those behaviors. Rushing an introvert will do this – not giving them time to think, and in the case of the Left-Brain Introvert, not being provocative enough at the same time. Note that “provocative” does not necessarily mean to do it faster! [click to continue…]

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Being Natural in the Normal World

by Linda Parelli on April 4, 2012

Sometimes it’s really hard. It’s hard to watch horses being smacked and jerked around, being pulled in the mouth. It’s hard to witness their emotional confusion, stress and pain. It’s hard not to blame the human, to refrain from saying “you’re doing it wrong!”

But sometimes I am there and I just have to know that somehow I am part of this. Part of the problem and yet part of the solution. That book Zero Limits by Joe Vitale really puts it into words.

These past few weeks, I’ve seen more than I care to, and having that exposure presents a choice – criticize and condemn, or understand and educate. I choose the latter.

Sure, it’s hard at times. I get sad and mad, but somehow I collect myself and stop the judgment. Somehow it is perfect. I am renewed with motivation and am more passionate about our cause than ever.

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Longeing vs. Playing

December 21, 2011

Something is happening with Parelli students all over the world that is a bit concerning, and it compelled me to write this blog. I need to clearly explain the difference between longeing (or “lunging”) and playing with your horse – because I’m seeing the Circling Game turning into longeing! At the very first clinic I […]

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Making Sure Your Warmed-Up Horse Isn’t A Bored Horse

October 19, 2011

Something that Pat does really well is getting right to the point. He knows exactly what the horse needs in order to become calm, connected and responsive – it’s only the secret of horsemanship! So as I come back into the teaching arena, more and more often I can see where this secret has stayed […]

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Reverse Psychology

August 5, 2011

I remember when Pat first talked about using “reverse psychology” with horses, that the less direct-line you are with a horse, the more progress you make.  I really thought I understood what he was talking about until I started performing in public demonstrations with him.  We would each be given a horse that had various […]

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Expectation and Reward

July 13, 2011

As I was helping a student recently in the Game of Contact, I realized that the reason her left-brain horse was heavy and sluggish was because he was bored, but when she asked if she should be more provocative I said that I didn’t think that was the problem as much as her expectation of […]

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Highlights of My Two and a Half Week Trip to UK and Europe!

May 3, 2011

UK Celebration – 6,000 horse lovers there for the show, fabulous weather, great horses for our demos, 30 or more of our instructors, many with their own horses, wonderful seeing everyone there and getting to meet some of you. I wrote a blog about one of the demos, hopefully you saw that. France – visit […]

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Horses Don’t Think Like People

April 15, 2011

This is often the hardest thing to forget as we develop our skills in training and communicating with horses. In Parelli, the techniques are the least important and the relationship is the most important. To this end, no matter how effective we are at getting the horse to do something, if it is at the […]

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The Road Less Traveled

March 3, 2011

If you ever want to really put your principles to the test, accept an invitation to compete against two established winners in a totally foreign environment and have the audience be a volatile mix of dedicated students and detractors, and now not only be riding a 3 yo. colt for the first time within two […]

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