Problems and Progress

by Linda Parelli on December 22, 2010

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As I was visiting the Finesse class recently, I was asked a question that lead me to explain how I approach training my horses each day.  Either I’m making progress or I’m fixing problems.  You can’t do both at the same time… much as you’d like to think you can, it doesn’t work.

You get into trouble when you try to accomplish a task but your horse is having emotional trouble.  And when the horse is ready and willing you can miss the opportunity to make progress.  I know with Allure that moment when he stopped arguing with me was amazing, but I found myself in a kind of fog… I didn’t have a plan for him when he was being good! I’d grown so used to every session being somewhat of a struggle that it kind of set a pattern.  I’d have a plan of what I wanted to do, but within minutes that turned into something completely different because he’d try to do everything except what I wanted.  It became more of tit for tat – I do this, you do that, then I do something to try to counter what you did and then you try to counter what I did.  Sheesh.  No wonder it’s taken years to get anywhere.

If you’ve been following my blog you’ll remember the day we made the breakthrough, the day I finally understood how to encourage Allure instead of argue with him.  And what progress we’ve made since then.  Finally I’m not working on fixing problems, I’m making progress with him… fast.  Even being able to direct my assistants and it is truly amazing to see him cantering around the playground with them, sailing over logs, positive and relaxed.

With West Point, I’m really not making progress in terms of advancing our skills yet because I am fixing some pretty big problems.  His biggest problems are around riding with contact, and being worried about pressure so they are my two main focuses.  Throughout the ride I pepper it in… pick up the reins and ride with a “soft touch”, which is having connection with his mouth but not asking for anything back from him.  We can walk, trot and canter like this, even make transitions but it’s more when I pick up the reins that he has his flashbacks.  So I do it a lot, desensitizing him.  There’s much to fix in this area because he’s had years of negative experiences so that gives me the patience and understanding to take the time it takes for him.  I would say that now he reacts only about 40% of the time, and not nearly as severely.

Contact is coming along nicely, rider just needs to be able to ride THAT trot! :) Photo by Coco

Contact is coming along nicely, rider just needs to be able to ride THAT trot! :) Photo by Coco

Last week Walter Zettl was here coaching us and I rode in three lessons with Westy.  It went great.  In fact on the third day he was going so well, all of a sudden there were no problems to fix so I was able to advance a little and did some canter-walk transitions.  We could only do three, but it was progress!  And today, at the end of our ride I picked up the contact and did a few counter bends on a serpentine as I crossed my lawn and they flowed without an ounce of resistance.

Linda and West Point. Photo by Coco

Linda and West Point. Photo by Coco

We so often talk about putting the relationship first and this is a powerful example of what that means.  The moment your horse has trouble, take the time to address it and don’t push on through it or you’ll lose his trust and respect.  If you pay attention to qualities like confidence, trust, motivation and willingness it brings a whole new quality to your results.  Remember that Monopoly thing “Do not pass Go”?  Well, that’s how I think of it.  If I’m doing something with my horse and suddenly he gets bracey or resistant, emotional or worried, I immediately focus on solving that issue and return to the original task only when my horse is ready.

Fix your problems so you can make progress, and when you don’t have problems, remember to make progress!  I’m writing an in-depth article on this very subject for the February issue of Savvy Times that will give you lots of examples and solutions. :)

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Deana BaileyNo Gravatar August 8, 2011 at 2:54 pm

Hi Linda
I recently moved my 6 yr old mare(Jazz) into a field with my 8 yr old gelding(Danny). He has been gelded almost 6 years. I have never had any trouble catching him until I put the two of them together. He was herding her like a stallion. He was doing the flemming act and she actually came in season. We actually had to corner them to get a halter on each one of them. I took him out first and started leading him away, thats when more trouble hit. When we got out of sight of Jazz he started circling me uncontrollably and put his head down like he was trying to wiggle out of his halter. He wasnt having any luck with that action so, he looked at me out of the corner of his eye and aimed a rear-leg kick at me, which he did several times. I was getting scared. I couldnt get him to the round pen that was on the other side of the barn. He kept running around me, I jumped up on the hood of an old car and he ran round and round the car. I felt trapped. I know this was bad. We were both soaked with sweat. My friend finally saw the trouble, but I was afraid he would kick her, thats when he pulled the rope out of my hand and ran back to the pen with Jazz. Once he saw Jazz he settled right down. My husband(Eric) wasnt having any trouble with the Jazz. I grabbed Dannys rope and led him back into the field and turned both loose. I havent tried anything since. Should I move him back to himself and put my other mare(Lil Lady) in with Jazz? When Danny’s field-mate was another gelding he was always glad to go with me and never wanted to go back.
Help? What should…

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NikiitaNo Gravatar July 27, 2011 at 6:49 pm

Hi Linda, I have a quick question for you. I am 8 months pregnant and my husbands horse, JST Hollys Charger aka Charger, is an Appendix Quarter Horse and an LBE/RBE. This is my first pregnancy and the horses have the entire 5 acres to roam; which also means that the fence surrounds our house. My deal with Charger is that he is now figuring out that I cant work with him like I used to be able to and now he disrespects my space and is starting to get pushy. When I put a halter on him, he did listen to what I wanted him to do then when I asked him to yeild his hindquarters he forequartered me knocking me down and took off. Beings that the fence is surrounding the house, I cant get away from him and he comes right up to my face and starts pushing me and I dont want to walk away but I have to and its gotten to the point where I cant be outside because of him. He is my husbands first horse, and he still doesnt know the ropes about horses yet. I keep telling John (my husband) to not discipline him, for it is only making him worse. Is there any way that I can get this horse to back off from me without hurting myself and my soon to be born child? I have worked with horses my entire life, and have been using some Parelli methods here and there but with a complicated pregnancy and a pushy horse, I dont know where else to turn.

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VickiNo Gravatar July 27, 2011 at 11:16 pm

You need to get the horse out of your space when you are outside. Have your husband make an area where the horse can be separate from where you are when outside.
Find a PNH Instructor near you that can help. Do not risk your life and your baby for the horse. You need to be safe!!!

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NikiitaNo Gravatar July 30, 2011 at 12:22 am

Thank you Vicki! I will be looking for a PNH Instructor in my area!!

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VickiNo Gravatar July 30, 2011 at 2:17 am

Where are you located?

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NikiitaNo Gravatar July 30, 2011 at 9:49 pm

I am in Williston, North Dakota…

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VickiNo Gravatar August 1, 2011 at 2:36 pm

Are you on Parelli Connect?

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NikiitaNo Gravatar August 18, 2011 at 12:48 am

No… I have been looking at getting a membership but havent been able to yet…

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VickiNo Gravatar August 18, 2011 at 2:08 am

You can join the Savvy Club for a month free and do Parelli Connect too I think.

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MercedesNo Gravatar June 27, 2011 at 5:07 pm

hey, Linda
I was wishing that you could help me with a problem with my shared horse.
the problem is that when ever I get on my horse he is called Neo he always moves and cant keep still and then the other thing is that when I am doing liberty how do I get him to trot with me Wishing you might be able to help thanks Linda xxxx :)

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LyndaNo Gravatar May 18, 2011 at 8:41 pm

Hi there Linda,

I wrote to you last year about my rescued thoroughbred Mia. I had her boarded at a stable an hour away for 8 months because I couldn’t find boarding on the small island where I live. She finally came home recently, and I’m trying to figure out what to do with her.

Mia was not handled at all for her first 2 years (and when she was it was probably negative but not often). When she was at the boarding stable she was handled by volunteers a couple of times per week and by barn staff every day. When she wouldn’t walk forward, she was smacked with the lead rope or a crop. She was also halter trained by dragging her around her stall in a halter until she learned to follow. She was lip chained to have her feet done. She had chains over her nose often. This is not at all what I would have done but I wasn’t there.

So now I have a horse who rears up if she even suspects that she will be disciplined, who refuses to walk through gates, who stops constantly when she’s being lead, etc. I am able now to stand with her in her stall when she eats and pat her, I can take on and off her blankets, and I can pick her front feet, but when I try to brush her she spins around to check out what I’m doing and often tries to nip. I admit to having lost my cool with her the other day. I swung the lead rope at her side to get her going. She reared up and fell down on her shoulder. For the next couple of days she was better, and now this morning I had to lead her back to her stall because she just would NOT go through the gate and I had to get to work.

Help?

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Linda ParelliNo Gravatar May 24, 2011 at 9:53 pm

Hi Lynda, this sounds like a pretty big project. You may need to get some professional help from one of our licensed instructors, but something else I would STRONGLY recommend is to get a personalized horsenality match report done. This will give you so much information on what it is you need to do to get your horse more connected with you and therefore mentally and emotionally balanced.

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Jasmine IrvingNo Gravatar May 17, 2011 at 6:11 am

Hi Linda
Im a 12 year old girl in New Zealand!
I ride a LBI Appaloosa called True
Im in the Savvy club and your tips and articles have helped me a lot!!!
You are my role model and I would love it if Parelli was more of a big thing in NZ!

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Linda ParelliNo Gravatar May 24, 2011 at 9:55 pm

That’s great Jasmine. And check out our instructors there, maybe get on Parelli Connect. I think you’ll find a lot of Parelli friends there!

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VickiNo Gravatar May 6, 2011 at 3:19 am

I have a LBI and have had a hard time with getting her to move under saddle. I have since had an Equine dentist look at her and an Equine Chiropractor. The Chiro decided “Sweet Pea” needed dentistry to work on her teeth after examining her. After the dental work I decided to saddle her to see if she would move. Using the following: Breath in, tighten my cheeks, roll my toes and turn toes out then use the mecate on my shoulders side to side then the horse, I found she decided to start moving with out using legs. Using these steps she finally started to move. I was amazed…I do not know if it was the technique I was now using or the dentistry. I think it was both and time will tell.

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