Something that Pat does really well is getting right to the point. He knows exactly what the horse needs in order to become calm, connected and responsive – it’s only the secret of horsemanship! So as I come back into the teaching arena, more and more often I can see where this secret has stayed with Pat but needs to get out to all of you! And that’s my job.
When we warm up our horses, I have noticed a pattern (and I used to do this too): unless we’re dealing with safety issues, we tend to do all of our favorite things on the ground. That could be the Circling Game, Stick to Me, playing over some jumps, or on a pedestal perhaps. It’s fun, feels cool, and it makes sure your horse is calm. But I want you to start thinking a little deeper than this, because what I tend to see is horses that are mentally, emotionally and physically tired of it. Bored, bored, bored. And I’ll tell you one thing – Pat Parelli’s horses are never bored!
Recently I was presenting a seminar and I asked the audience if they knew what their horse needed when warming up. The response was basically, “Huh?” Hence this blog!
As Pat so wisely says, “Cause your idea to become your horse’s idea, but understand your horse’s idea first.”
“Yup,” we all say.
But do we really know what this means? The Seven Games and Parelli Patterns are so powerful that they will teach a horse to pretty much do whatever you want, but the attitude with which you apply them is what makes the difference between doing it “with” your horse versus “to” your horse. We’ve all seen these wonderful techniques used with an arrogant or forceful attitude, and that is not what I’m talking about. I’m talking about you and me – well-intentioned, kind, educated horse lovers who are trying to do the best for their horse but sometimes have no idea that they’ve passed the point where the horse actually thinks it’s interesting and it’s no longer really effective. Yes, they are safe and obedient, but they are not necessarily exuberant.
When you warm up your horse, think about this: What is your outcome? Let me give you a simple formula:
1) Calm
2) Connected
3) Responsive
CALM – You need your horse calm so he won’t buck you off, run off with you, be hard to control, or act nervous and spooky. So if you achieved the outcome of CALM, your horse is safe to be around and easily ridden.
CONNECTED – You want your horse to be connected, which means that he is more connected to you than the stables, the herd or the gate. When connected, he sees only you and is not concerned with anything else going on; he might notice it, but he’s not absorbed or distracted by it. Like being out to dinner with someone: you hope they are more connected with you than anyone else! That is up to you – to us – to achieve.
RESPONSIVE – When you ask your horse something, does he comply, resist, or respond with enthusiasm? So many horses react defensively or resist and argue, so getting that eager and willing response is something most of us dream about. Left-Brain Horsenalities™ are often more challenging, but right-brain Horsenalities™ can also get less responsive and interested once they are no longer afraid of things and know the drill.
Now that I’ve figured this simple formula out, I’m excited to expand on it and write a larger article for an upcoming issue of our members’ Savvy Times magazine. That article will also present the “how.” And who knows, a members’ DVD on the same subject could be pretty cool too. I once taught these concepts to a group in a 2-day course for the first time, and the next day, the results were astonishing. It was a completely different picture – the horses were calm, connected and responsive. And the humans were ecstatic. I told them that Pat would be proud!



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I agree with Stefanie! I just found out through the Horseanality that my Cookie is a LBI who will do much for me, but is it really with heart? I would love to see how I can motivate myself enough to have Cookie willingly enjoy the play, and the games, not just “do them”. Waiting as patiently as a RBE can for the next article/DVD on this.
Thank you
This is one of those things that if you don’t know, you don’t know, but when someone points it out you go “duh! I can’t believe I didn’t realise that!”
I’ve just had that same moment! Sure my LBI does what I want her to but she’s always got that “Are we done yet? Can we go home yet?” attitude.
I can’t wait to read your article and I’d definately LOVE a dvd on the subject.
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